Hi Joe. You hit the nail on the head with this one.

I’m offended when people who’ve never been professionally diagnosed say they have the same illness as I do just because they’ve acted badly and need an excuse.

My diagnosis was made, and has been confirmed, by several psychiatrists and a psychologist. Mental illness steals huge chunks from one’s life, so diagnoses probably shouldn’t be made by just taking a test online.

I sometimes want to ask self-diagnosed people what jobs, homes, partners, spouses, and friends they’ve lost because of their disease. It’s mean of me, but I get tired of the minimizing and self diagnosis.

I’m 68 years old. My life expectancy is shorter than that of people who do not have this disorder. I’ve lost more in my life than a lot of people ever have because of an illness I didn’t even know I had until I was over 50. Despite good treatment, it’s harder to feel well as I age. Yes, I bristle when someone blithely says their (disorder) is acting up or jokingly calls someone by the name of my disorder. Really?

My diagnosis shattered me. But lately my illness must be in style— as it seems almost everyone has it.

I hope people do as you wisely advise and seek professional help. Your offer of assistance was kind and unselfish.

Thank you for sharing your article.

Former print journalist, former mayor, retired law enforcement officer. Writing about politics and government along with random personal essays.

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